Month: March 2012

Jersey Baby Boomer (WE SURVIVED!)

Jersey Girl circa 1958

Jersey Girl circa 1958

I am so tired of all this molly-coddling of kids these days that it makes me sick. I’m a Baby Boomer, one of the approximately 2,328,147 currently  (still) living in the state of New Jersey today. First, we survived being born to mothers who may have smoked and/or drank while they were pregnant. They took aspirin, ate blue cheese dressing, tuna from a can, and didn’t get tested for diabetes. Then, after that trauma, we were put to sleep on our tummies in baby cribs covered with bright colored lead-based paints. We had no childproof lids on medicine bottles, locks on doors or cabinets, and, when we rode our bikes, we had baseball caps, not helmets, on our heads.  As infants and children, we would ride in cars with no car seats, no booster seats, no seat belts, no air bags, bald tires and sometimes no brakes.Riding in the back of a pick- up truck on a warm day was always a special treat. We drank water from the garden hose and not from a bottle. We shared one soft drink with four friends, from one bottle, and no one actually died from this. We ate cupcakes, white bread, real butter, and bacon. We drank Kool-Aid made with real white sugar. And we weren’t overweight. WHY? Because we were always outside playing…that’s why!  We would leave home in the morning and play all day, as long as we were back when the streetlights came on. No one was able to reach us all day. ~And, we were OKAY.

We would spend hours riding our bicycles, roller skating, building our go-carts out of scraps and then ride each of these down the hill, only to find out we forgot the brakes.  After running into the bushes a few times, we learned to solve the problem. We did not have Play Stations, Nintendo and X-boxes. There were no video games, no 150 channels on cable, no video movies or DVDs, no surround-sound or CDs, no cell phones, no personal computers, no Internet and no chat rooms. WE HAD FRIENDS and we went outside and found  them! We fell out of trees, got cut, skinned our knees, broke bones and teeth, and there were no lawsuits from those accidents. We would get spankings with wooden spoons, switches, ping-pong paddles, or just a bare hand, and no one would call child services to report abuse. We ate worms, and mud pies made from dirt, and the worms did not live in us forever.

We were given BB guns for our 10th birthdays, made up games with sticks and tennis balls, and -although we were told it would happen- we did not put out very many eyes. We rode our bikes or walked to a friend’s house and knocked on the door or rang the bell, or just walked in and talked to them. Little League had tryouts and not everyone made the team. Those who didn’t had to learn to deal with disappointment. Imagine that!! The idea of a parent bailing us out if we broke the law was unheard of. They actually sided with the law! These generations have produced some of the best  risk-takers, problem solvers, and inventors ever.

METhe past 65 years have seen an explosion of innovation and new ideas. We’ve had freedom, failure, success and responsibility, and we learned how to deal with it all! Such a shame that we have failed to pass these great and really fun lessons, values & morals along to our children as well as our parents did. My guess is that we’ll know how well we did as parents & teachers when the time eventually comes for ‘them’ to decide whether or not to ‘care for us in our old age’ or discard us in favor of an ‘assisted living facility’ as the current  politically correct climate prefers.  I guess, we’ll just have to wait & see if our children and their generation decide how best to deal with “us” the Baby Boomer elderly. Indeed, the newest American law, OBAMACARE  & its ultimate consequences may just solve all the problems associated with caring for we, the newest elderly by way of … “euthanasia for the us” (the NEW elderly). Because don’t forget ~ our parents are either dead or dying by now!  This will most likely be seen to be just as matter of fact to them, as “abortion for the unborn” was to our generation!  I, can only hope & pray that we (I) have passed on more of our (my) moral & religious values to our children than the cowardly & politically correct Bull Shit peddled by the Liberal Media & radical liberal have done!  ~dfh~  GOD BLESS AMERICA!

BEAR (Canine Influenza Danger)

We lost our sweet Bear this past weekend. His death was almost as unexpected as our Heidi’s sudden death just this past December, 2011.  A gentle little dog, Bear was adopted in October 2004 from a local NJ rescue group. He was 5 years old and had been turned in by a backyard breeder who had used him as a breeding male up until that time. I fell in love with him the first time I saw him and he lived with our little family for almost 7 ½ years before his sudden passing. He was deeply loved and will be missed.Heidi and Bear 2010

Bear had his annual visit to the vet on February 12th. All his blood, urine & fecal tests were normal and his vaccinations were all updated during that visit, including his Bordetella vaccine. Two weeks later on February 28th, we took him to the groomer for a bath & haircut. Four days after that, he began to exhibit a little cough but not so much that we were worried. During the next week, everything seemed normal. He was eating, drinking water, going to the bathroom normally and the little cough seemed to be just that; little. By Friday night though; he was coughing almost constantly and laboring to breathe. I just knew by the sound & feel of him that he had pneumonia. Our vet actually came outside to the car to look at Bear when we arrived and quickly rushed him inside through a rear door (so as not to infect other dogs in his waiting room). Bear was immediately placed on oxygen. He was examined, x-rayed, dosed with antibiotics, then placed in an oxygen tent. Some of his pink color came back (his gums & tongue were blue) but even after a few hours of this, Bear still labored to breathe and the prognosis was not good. The xrays showed his lungs filled with fluid and that he did indeed, have pneumonia. Bear was struggling to breathe and we knew that he would not recover from this on his own. His age being a factor, Luke & I did not want to have him suffocate while alone in the hospital overnight and bringing him home in that horrendous condition was out of the question. And so, Bear died peacefully in my arms that afternoon ~ with dignity and without the torture of suffocation.

*I believe that he caught this flu while at groomer 10 days earlier although there is no proof and really no one to blame. PLEASE, if you own a dog; check with your family veterinarian about this dangerous illness before exposing him or her to other dogs, a Boarding Kennel or the Groomer. The annual Bordetella vaccine against “kennel cough” is not sufficient to prevent infection.

The following is excerpted from

CANINE INFLUENZA: The virus that causes dog flu, Influenza Type A (H3N8), was first identified in Florida in 2004. It primarily infects the respiratory system and is extremely contagious. A vaccine was granted full license by the United States Department of Agriculture in 2009 (Nobivac® Canine Flu H3N8). Some dogs can be exposed to the virus and fight off infection without showing clinical signs.

Symptoms and Types

 Dogs that are infected with the canine influenza virus may develop two different syndromes:

1.      Mild – These dogs will have a cough that is typically moist and can have nasal discharge. Occasionally, it will be more of a dry cough. In most cases, the symptoms will last 10 to 30 days and usually will go away on its own.

2.      Severe – Generally, these dogs have a high fever (above 104 degrees Fahrenheit) and develop signs very quickly. Pneumonia, specifically hemorrhagic pneumonia, can develop. The influenza virus affects the capillaries in the lungs, so the dog may cough up blood and have trouble breathing if there is bleeding into the alveoli (air sacs). Patients may also be infected with bacterial pneumonia, which can further complicate the situation.


 The mild form is usually treated with cough suppressants. Antibiotics may be used if there is a secondary bacterial infection. Rest and isolation from other dogs is also important.

The severe form needs to be treated aggressively with a broad spectrum of antibiotics, fluids and other general support treatments. Hospitalization and isolation are necessary until the dog is stable.

 Living and Management

 A vaccine for the canine flu is currently available, though it should only be considered after speaking with your veterinarian. In addition, there are other respiratory conditions that can be vaccinated against, specifically Bordetella bronchiseptica, the bacteria responsible for what is commonly called “kennel cough.”

Any dog that is suspected to have canine influenza should be isolated from other dogs. Those dogs with the mild form of the infection usually recover on their own. Canine influenza is not a contagion issue for humans or other species.


thumbnail navy 1I’m a tenth generation American. A baby boomer born in the mid 1950’s, I grew up in New Jersey. I was raised in the Christian faith, with morals, ethical values and integrity. My parents both worked hard and I learned the value of a dollar early on, felt secure in their care and under the liberty and safety of the United States of America. As an adult, I joined the U. S. Navy where I excelled, worked, traveled, purchased my first home and eventually opted to retire back to New Jersey after about 11 years of active duty. My husband, a retired Navy Chief and I wanted children and at the time, we were secure in the direction our country was heading. Ronald Reagan’s presidency had given us hope and prosperity was on the rise. Now, I’m terrified that the end is near and in most ways is alreadyhere. The American Dream is all but gone now. Our Founding Fathers have been reduced to caricatures in silly advertising schemes & terrorists according to the Obama administration. Our freedom of religion, faiths & moral values are under siege and our freedom of speech is so scrutinized for political correctness that the first amendment of our Constitution, for the average American, seems to be nothing more than something that the news media use as a defense mechanism in court. Elections have consequences which can last a generation or more. I hope this next Presidential election produces results that will stop & reverse the terrifying socialist direction our country currently seems to be heading for.

You cannot bring about prosperity by discouraging thrift. You cannot strengthen the weak by weakening the strong. You cannot help the wage earner by pulling down the wage payer. You cannot further the brotherhood of man by encouraging class hatred. You cannot keep out of trouble by spending more than you earn. You cannot build character and courage by taking away man’s initiative and independence. You cannot help men permanently by doing what they could and should do for themselves.

– Rev. William Boetcker

Frequently mistakenly attributed to Abraham Lincoln

Jersey Girls

jerseygirl“She’s humble, but ambitious. She’s independent, but family-oriented. She likes pizza, beer and lots of mascara, but don’t think for a second that she’s not sophisticated. She’s the Jersey Girl, and she’s one of the Garden State’s most enduring icons- a readily identifiable personality, as much a part of America’s cultural landscape as that other great Jerseyan, Frank Sinatra. So who is a Jersey Girl? There’s a chance you’re one- but residency isn’t all it takes. The Girl has a specific character, both in pop culture and in the hearts and minds of Jerseyans.  First there are the surface qualities: A love of an unpretentious good time, and a certain sense of style. Jersey Girls are about attitude. They’re about eating pizza, drinking beer, having great hair- and enjoying it all.  She’s a girl who enjoys the mall, might wear more makeup than the Ivy League would approve of, and gives some thought to her hair. She’s got a mouth on her. She says what she means. And she’s got a nice, cheerful laugh. She’s spunky and witty, and she handles competition very well. She’s got that confidence- everyone from New Jersey has that confidence. A Jersey Girl is crunchy on the outside and soft in the center. A Jersey Girl has the tenacity and drive of a New Yorker, but with the beauty of warmth and humility that being from Jersey is all about. Don’t mistake her toughness as a lack of refinement. Don’t misjudge her sometimes “brash” manners as a lack of ‘classiness.’ At the center of the crunchy sweet exterior, she is tuned in and knows how and what she’s working. A Jersey Girl doesn’t have to have a high-powered career, but whatever work she does, she gives it her all- and she takes care of her family at the same time. The overall makeup, if you will, of a true Jersey Girl: hard-working, family-oriented, spirited, one of a kind. And if you’re lucky, she’s your wife. Bottom line, all of them are sexy as hell.”
– excerpted from The Star-Ledger

I love that article, however; I don’t believe that all Jersey Girls are exactly how the author describes. I think that most people around the country actually believe the stereotype that paints all Jersey girls as being big-haired, big-mouthed, beer drinkers who wear too much make-up, have extremely poor taste in clothes and outrageous home décor. Being born and raised in the Garden State, I ama Jersey Girl. On the other hand I am and never was anything like the stereotype so often depicted on television and in films. 

What I am is a combination and contradiction of many things. I am a Woman, a Baby Boomer, a Navy Veteran, a Real Estate Broker, a Gourmet Cook, a Wife, a Sister, an Aunt and a Mother to not only friends and family but to the over 25 dogs & cats I have loved and cared for over the years. To that end, I AM a Jersey Girl.  ~ dfh